Separation Anxiety in dogs: Why it happens & how to work on it with you pooch

Signs, causes & what actually helps

Your dog loves you. Like, really loves you. So it’s no surprise that being apart can be a little overwhelming, especially if they’ve never had much practice.

But here’s the good news: with a bit of preparation and the right support, you can help your dog feel calm, confident, and okay when home alone.

First, what is separation anxiety?

Separation anxiety happens when dogs feel distressed or panicked about being left alone. It’s more than just a sad face, it can show up as:

• Barking, whining or howling

• Scratching at doors

• Toileting indoors

• Chewing things they normally wouldn’t

• Pacing or restlessness

Sometimes it’s mild. Sometimes it’s full-blown panic. Either way, it’s tough on both of you.

How to help (or prevent) separation anxiety

1. Start with short separations

Don’t go from 0 to 8 hours. Begin with just a few minutes, and gradually build up. Make it no big deal, leave calmly and return calmly. Practice in every day life, taking the bins out, checking the mail.

2. Create a “safe zone”

Set up a comfy space with their bed, familiar toys, and something that smells like you. Some dogs love crates, some prefer a room with a view.

3. Don’t make your exit dramatic

Avoid big goodbyes or guilt-filled hellos. Staying calm teaches them that being apart is normal and safe.

4. Add enrichment

Puzzle toys, chew items, and frozen Kongs keep their brain busy and help pass the time. A tired dog is also more likely to nap while you're gone.

5. Practice independence

Even when you’re home, teach your dog to settle away from you. Try a “place” mat, or chill crate time while you're nearby. Avoid having your pooch by your side at all times. We know resisting the cuddles is hard!

6. Consider structured support

Daycare can be a great stepping stone, especially when it’s calm, small-scale and designed to build confidence, like ours. It helps your pup practice being away from you in a safe, supported way, they learn that being away from you can actually be fun, and that you are always coming back!

The earlier you catch it, the easier it is to support your dog.

The final Woof

Separation anxiety is real, but it’s also manageable. With the right mix of structure, support, and gradual practice, your dog can learn that flying solo isn’t so scary after all.

And if you need a hand? That’s exactly what we’re here for.

At The Belly Rub Club, we support dogs through every step of their independence journey, gently, calmly, and with expert care. Our small-group daycare is designed to build confidence, not chaos.

Book a free 2‑hour trial and see how we can help your dog feel safe, settled, and happy, whether you're around or not.